It occurs to me that I haven’t blogged for some time. Mea maxima culpa to all of you kind souls who read what I write. I have taken a holiday off in my head for August. I hope you have had a holiday yourself and hope it was an enjoyable one.
At a Bizlinx meeting at Blenheim the other day, when asked to describe what I do, I said, “I help my clients find their courage.” Much to my surprise, it created a stir. John Phillips, MD of Noha Design Agency, a fellow member of Bizlinx told me, “Now I understand what you do!” He said he’d observed many people in corporate life needing to find their courage in difficult circumstances and saw the value of what I offer.
When you find your courage, it gets tested. People – family, work colleagues, friends – may well resist your growing confidence. Since you are becoming bolder and more assertive, they have to change the way they see you. It also means they must change the way they see themselves in relation to you. And this is uncomfortable. Change is always scary and uncertain. So they will resist your change.
Your challenge then is to meet the discomfort with compassion and insist your voice is heard. It can be daunting when those you thought were on your side start to snub, interrupt or disagree with you. Persist. Assertiveness makes for self respect. The more assertive (not aggressive or undermining) you are, the greater respect you have in yourself. And the greater your self respect, the more you inspire respect from others. To be respected is the foundation stone on which you build influence.
As a friend of mine once said, “The reward of courage…..is to know you have courage! And so does everyone else.”